Chapter 3 - Oral ~ Cunnilingus & Fellatio

DISCLAIMERS : Whatever I write is based on my own opinion. I might sound blunt or offensive to some but this is how I feel. You can disagree but doesn't mean I have to agree with you too.

 

Ok, it like finally I'm back with chapter 3. Today topic will be about giving a good and wet time to your sexual organ. This will be the intense area that either you success or fail it. For first timer, definitely it takes some times to master it. Different people have different sensitive spots. It for you to find out and for he/she to know. 

Cunnilingus

Cunnilingus aka painting, which means giving oral sex on the female's genital area. I know not many guys willing to go under the ladies and sometimes it vice versa. You can replace it with fingering if let's say you are uncomfortable with giving oral on the genital area. Before starts, make sure your fingernails are short and clean. Don't hurt the lady with your long nails and be hygienic. If the lady is wet enough, you can gently massage on her clitoris in circular motion. If she is slightly wet or dry, apply some lubricant on her clit as well as her vagina.

Don't do it if she is dry. It will be painful. Be considerate. If there's no lubricant, use saliva instead. Don't go "Eeeee!" If you are painting her later, it still the same. Be it its to massage her clit or finger her, please do it gently first. Don't be too rough on her. Clitoris is a very sensitive area. If overdo it, the girl will feel discomfort and might even get an infection. Don't directly massage the clit and for too long. The clit is the external area of where is above the urethra. It is more sensitive than a penis. Not many girls can take direct stimulation on the clit and that's including me. It is sensitive and to some, it might be painful to them. According to what I experienced and my suggestion, do it slightly below the clitoris which is called frenulum of clitoris. You can google about it to know where it is. Personally, I prefer this area than directly on the clitoris. Perhaps my that's where my g-spot is. You can gently using the rubbing tactic to stimulate it. Do it gently and if the lady is more relaxed and feel turns on, increase the speed (just the speed but maintain being gentle unless the lady prefers rough). How will you know that she is enjoying? By her body language and her expression. If she is being stimulated, she will even moan to it. From here, you can use your middle finger and slowly insert into her vagina. Do it in a to and fro motion. At this point, you can continue to either massage her clit or rub the frenulum. You have two hands, so make use of them lol. If you prefer 1 hand and the other hand playing with her body, use your middle finger to finger while using your thumb to massage her clit. If she comfy with it, you can insert the index finger together with your middle finger. Before this, ask her first is she ok with it. Some girls might not like or take it. If she is wet enough and she is not too tense, you can try the twisting effect of your fingering. That's why i have said beforehand that you have to make sure your fingernails are short. If they are long, it will hurt them while twisting as they will scratch the walls of the vagina. Twist and finger at the same time. Twist it slowly first and increase it from there. It up to individual how many fingers they can take it. Before you wanna increase more fingers, ask the lady first. As what I always say, respect each other.

For those who likes painting to the ladies or vice versa, hold back and sit tight. Before I continue, please wash your pussies thoroughly ladies. Don't just turn on your shower and sprinkle the water to your genital area. You have to open up your labias and wash it. For the guys, it the same. Don't just splash it with water that's it. For those who can pull down the foreskin, pull it down, with some shower gel and wash the head, neck of the glans and skin thoroughly. For those who can't pull down the foreskin, I would suggest to get a circumcise. I have clients who have such issues and some of them, might have their difficulties when comes to sex or even a blowjob e.g. can only do it softly and gently. Due to that, they might have difficulties to cum due to the motion that obstruct them. So if able to solve it, it is recommended to do it and for what I have seen and heard, the aftermath is way better and of course more hygienic. Another thing, this is where alot will neglect doing it. Please remember to wash your asshole aka anal. At times when I was performing blowjob for clients, while going south towards the testicles part, i could smell foul ass smell from the anal. It made it really hard to do it and it either to skip or holding the breath. There are some people who will only wipe the ass with tissues after they poo or didn't wash properly. Be it whatever reasons, after a long day, it is 1 of the area you have to take care too. I remember I have a client whom i guess neglected to wash his ass. While I about to blow, i saw a shattered piece of tissue stuck in his asshole hahahaha! It turned me off instantly. So ladies and gentlemen, please remember to wash ok lol. 

Ok, back to cunnilingus. When going down south of the lady, u can start with the pussy lips first. Some guys have this habit to open up the labias in quite a rough way. Hello, it a pussy not durian leh. Be gentle la, no matter how you want it to open up widely, it still makes of flesh and blood. Start with a sensual licking and observe how the lady's reaction. Sometimes a lady will guide you along and adjusting her pussy according to her needs and hinting you where to lick. Afterall, she knows where is her sensitive spot. It is good to have eyes contact too. But of course not staring at her all the time while you are painting her. It looks like a psycho hiding at a corner with creepy look. It makes the lady feels unease too if a pair of eyes keeping seeing her from below. Just do it when it requires and to watch her reaction too. Be it fingering or painting, it not necessary to lick the clit directly as it can be overly sensitive. You can lick on the top part of the clit which known as clitoris hood. You can lick it in a lap up way like how a cat drinks its milk. If the lady enjoys it and she doesn't complain any discomfort or pain, you can slowly proceed to the clitoris. As said earlier, don't attack vigorously on the clit. It is a very sensitive area so handle with care. You can your tongue and lick gently and stop, giving some break in between for few seconds. Some ladies might feel discomfort or it too sensitive to bear and they will wriggle. Make sure to do it slowly and gently so the lady can adapt to it. If she really can't, don't force yourself to continue it. You can either move towards to the vagina instead of clit or use fingering. On the clitoris, you can lick it in a circular motion or lap it up. Try not to lick too long too to prevent discomfort and infection like UTI. Try licking like about 2 minutes, you can continue your licking on the frenulum of the clitoris which just below the clit. At this area, you can lick it in a lap up way. This area, can have a magical moment from the lady especially it applies to me. I'm someone who needs time to warm up when comes to painting. My no 1 sensitive area is not there. Last month, something magical happened to me when a client painted me at the frenulum area. He was someone who willing to paint a lady long enough as he enjoyed watching her in orgasm. I think he did it like 20 mins and suddenly I felt a sensation traveling down along the clitoris hood. So I told him not to stop and continued doing that. And the feeling getting stronger and stronger and the ticklish sensation exploded out. I only have such feel only when I used a clitoris stimulator. So far by tongue or fingering, I didn't experienced it til I met this client. I told him he was the first guy that able to make me cum through painting. The look of his face, haha, looked so proud hahaha. Even gave me a peace handsign hahaha! One thing I realized, not many guys will paint a lady for more than 15 mins. The most is around 5 - 10 mins. Yes, I know it tiring to keep licking but just to let you guys know, ladies take time to get into the mood and cum. The difference between men and ladies are men can get arouse and get into the mood faster than the ladies. Ladies to get into the mood take about 15 mins and above. But, ladies can cum more than the guys. You can try to lick it longer and who knows, the lady will experience what I had experienced. As everyone has their sensitive spot at different areas, you can try to figure it out and the lady will let you know whether it the correct spot. Another area to focus will be the vagina. Either you can lick or tongue fuck it. If you are using tongue fuck method, use your finger to rub on the clit or the frenulum. Either way can be done too. Means, while you are licking on her clit or frenulum, use your finger to finger her. There are ladies whom their sensitive areas are around the anal area. If both are ok, you can try to lick or finger the anus too. Of course, it provided the girl is ok with it. Don't do it without her consent. It is painful (for fingering) and discomfort if she does not do it before.

If the lady is aroused and feels stimulated, she will experience orgasm. Different ladies have different ways of orgasm. Ladies have a few types of orgasm. Clitoral orgasm, vaginal orgasm, g-spot orgasm, A-spot orgasm, U-spot orgasm, squirting orgasm and more. Majority will cum (fluid that flow out from the vagina) and some will experience squirt. There's a saying that all girls can squirt. But i can tell you, it not all to be honest. Some are easy to do it but not all are. I tried to squirt and even engaged professional to do it but I couldn't. Probably I didn't know how to do it or I took nervous. Squirting requires a relax mind to do it. I had a feeling of peeing but it just couldn't do it the right way. I did do a read up about squirting and probably next time I will cover on this. 

Another way to replace your fingering or licking to make the lady to orgas, it by sex toys. There are different sex toys that cater to different needs and spots. Sex toys like Clitoral Stimulator, G-Spot Vibrator, Dildo, Rabbit Vibrator and many more. To get a good one, definitely needs to invest more. Even though might not seems worth it to spend $100 and above to get 1 sex toy but it definitely works as magic. I did have clients who brought the vibrator along when those days I was in agencies. But right now, I usually will reject such requests due to reasons like hygiene, being rough on me etc. I personally have some sex toys and I prefer clitoral stimulator the most. It is rather intense due the strong vibration that sends the wave right through the clitoris. One more you guys have to take note, don't too dependant on sex toys. You will tend to rely on it once you are addicted to it and it will affect the normal sex life. Sex toys are to spice up excitement but that's a limit to it. I once kinda addicted to my clitoral stimulator and I have problem to get arouse by the normal foreplay. It like without it, I couldn't get into the mood. That's 1 time I guess I have been using it too many times, like 3 times a day like almost everyday. I went to the toilet and pee and I kinda got a shocked. I thought I had menses but when I checked, that's nothing coming out from the vagina. When I wanna pee again, the urine was in red color again. I kinda panicked by looking at it. The urgency of going to the toilet became really frequent like every 5 mins. Even though that's nothing out but still felt that urgency. At that point of time, I felt cramp on my hips area. I was thinking, die liao, how to go home like this. I was in the hotel in town and it already midnight. So i started to call the reception to ask them where's the nearest 24 hours clinics. It seemed like the nearest was a private hospital. So I left with no choice and bear with the discomfort and the cramp, packed my stuffs and rushed to the hospital myself. So after tested and stuffs, I had suffered from UTI. I think i still have the pic of the blooded urine in a bottle which I took in the hospital. I learnt my lesson after that and kicked off the habit of using sex toys that often. Don't have to worry guys, this happened 3 years ago and I perfectly find now. I will get myself tested frequently too. Guys have sex toys too beside the ladies. Like cock ring, flashlight, butt plug, prostate massager etc. I have the cock ring and penis pump. So far the feedback of cockring is vibration and the tightness make it quite fast to cum. The feeling is more stimulated. I haven't used the penis pump yet so no comment haha. Ok, next topic. Enough of cunnilingus already.

Fellatio

Guys should be waiting for this topic to be mentioned haha. As mentioned earlier, before you want the lady to 'service' you, please wash your precious thoroughly. Don't be lazy, remember to pull down your foreskin if you able to. Ok here are for the ladies to get a better picture of a blowjob. It is my way of doing it and I'm not saying that I'm a prof too. I know some ladies don't like to perform blowjob to their partners. 1 thing, this is 1 of the important part of the foreplay that it hard to give it a miss. If you find it disgusting to do it by mouth, you can start it with your hands first. If you wanna give it a try, probably you can start with putting a condom if you are afraid of smell and stuffs like this. For the guys, don't force the ladies if they really can't bring themselves to do it.

How do get it starts? Spit some saliva on the head of the penis and use your hand to stroke the penis with the saliva. Don't spit too much of it if not it will be too wet and will not feel the suction. You don't wanna lie on a bed with a puddle of saliva end of the day too right? Just spit right amount will do. The reason of saliva is for stimulation purpose. Lick the head of the penis which will be 1 of the sensitive areas. Use your tongue and go around the head in circular motion. You can look at the guy while doing it and it definitely turn him on. Dirty talk will be essential now and then if you are ok with it. This applies to the guys when they perform oral sex to the ladies too. Slowly, go down to the shaft and lick up and down. There are veins on this area by licking in lap up way will stimulate the penis. Then, open up your mouth for the penis and go down to an extend that won't choke you and go up again. All these while, penis should be inside the mouth and not letting go. Go up and down slowly first and then increase your speed. Make sure you tighten your jaw area so as the penis will feel the tightness and grip as if it inside the pussy. How to do it? Suck in both your cheeks like making your face sharper. Use this way while you are blowing. It will be kinda sore after some times and if you feel that way, you can change it to other ways back like licking. Til you won't feel sore, you can change to sucking again. For deepthroating, it does requires practice. For the first time, it definitely will gag. Give it some times to adapt and it will success. Of course it depends on the thickness and length of the penis. Not every penis can be able to deepthroat. You can deepthroat a few times while you are blowing and it will send the guy to the heaven and back. Do it swiftly and you see his expression.

A blowjob needs to be in slow, fast, enough force as a combo. It not necessary in 1 motion. But as said, different people have different requirements. Not all prefer fast or forceful. So have to understand what he prefers. For me, I will suck and twirl my tongue around the head at the same time. My blowjob usually are mixtures of licking, twirling, sucking, deepthroating. For those who face bigger or longer dick and you find it hard to go deeper, you can use your hand to wrap around the shaft so as to prevent you from choking. Of course a good blowjob, don't require hands at all. It only applies when you are tired after some times of blowing. Some guys take longer time to cum.

Another place to focus will be the perineal raphe to the anus. Some guys sensitive areas are at testicles,  perineal raphe and the anus. That's why I have mentioned to wash the anus thoroughly. You can lick the testicles area. At times you can give it a suck in between. Some guys like their testicles to be sucked. Then you can use your tongue to lick the perineal raphe area. Most of the guys will be in their orgasm state at this area. If you willing to give ass rim, you can do it too. One thing the ladies might not know, some guys' sensitive areas are their anus. For me I don't do ass rim, so too bad guys lol. So usually i will use my fingers to rub the anus with some saliva and provided he ok with it. Some guys scare I will poke in hahaha. I won't do that either and some guys got asked me to do that but I reluctant to do it. Afraid what's come out it disgusting haha. 

A blowjob, that's no fixed routine to it. You can create your own style of blowjob. Each lady's blowjob is different too. Some are sensual, some are wild, some are fast, some are forceful. So that's no wrong or right ways. Most important, it the skill. It needs alot of practices to achieve a certain level that most guys will think you are good. If you can manage to blow til the guy cums, you are divine already hahaha.

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